Many pregnant women turn to doctors to the question, is it safe to have sex during pregnancy. Doctors usually inclined to the view that pregnant women can be ...
... to have sex, and it is safe. During orgasm, or stimulation of erogenous zones on her breast, uterine contractions may occur, but that there is nothing terrible, and should not be afraid of miscarriage. However, if uterine contractions did not stop after a few minutes and there will be blood separation, should certainly appeal to watching you doctor.
There is a positive moment in sex during pregnancy: through physiological changes during pregnancy (increased blood flow to the pelvis, is expanding uterus, vagina, clitoris increases), women are able to achieve a more "qualitative", bright orgasm and feel more pleasure. Sex is also able to raise a woman's libido.
Many people ask about safe sex late in pregnancy. And even in this case, doctors say yes (if the pregnant woman is no amount of bleeding, there is no risk of premature damage to the membranes, there is no discharge, the partner is not serious genital infections (eg, herpes, etc.), a woman in excellent health feels).
However, many men are afraid of having sex with his wife in late pregnancy. They are afraid of somehow harm the health of his wife and child, are experiencing for them. In this case, both partners can either choose a safe posture, move on to oral pleasure, or even just go to a gentle massage to each other.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Sex for one night: the rules
Sex for one night is associated with a number of pleasant sensations and surprises. How not to spoil the mood? To avoid mistakes, experts advise to adhere to certain rules.
Here are some tips to follow that, you will not spoil the experience.
1. Where to stay overnight?
Women usually housing is cleaner than men. In addition, the sleeping woman's bed with silk sheets and lots of comfortable cushions - the perfect place for sex. But think about the shortcomings that you bring a stranger to his home. After a night of love, it's easier to leave the house a friend, than to man.
2. Safe sex
If you have multiple sexual partners, you better think about remedies. And no matter what your partner, unprotected sex is dangerous!
Keep and regularly screened by a gynecologist, especially if you have multiple sexual partners. And best of all - always keep a condom in her purse.
3. Most important thing - to experiment
Sex for one night - a great opportunity to try some new poses. Discuss with your partner for your erotic fantasies. By cherishing Treat sexual partner preferences. If you do not like something, tactfully tell him about it.
4. Not Fade Away
If you liked sex with this man, do not disappear. You may want to continue the relationship. Do not miss a chance to meet again with this person.
Here are some tips to follow that, you will not spoil the experience.
1. Where to stay overnight?
Women usually housing is cleaner than men. In addition, the sleeping woman's bed with silk sheets and lots of comfortable cushions - the perfect place for sex. But think about the shortcomings that you bring a stranger to his home. After a night of love, it's easier to leave the house a friend, than to man.
2. Safe sex
If you have multiple sexual partners, you better think about remedies. And no matter what your partner, unprotected sex is dangerous!
Keep and regularly screened by a gynecologist, especially if you have multiple sexual partners. And best of all - always keep a condom in her purse.
3. Most important thing - to experiment
Sex for one night - a great opportunity to try some new poses. Discuss with your partner for your erotic fantasies. By cherishing Treat sexual partner preferences. If you do not like something, tactfully tell him about it.
4. Not Fade Away
If you liked sex with this man, do not disappear. You may want to continue the relationship. Do not miss a chance to meet again with this person.
Scariest love there is no beast
Attention and love is never enough. And because each of us in varying degrees are hungry for a close and trusting relationship. But the strange thing: it is necessary only to find such a relationship, they begin to call "allergies", "leading to run away from vicinity. And if a person from something escapes, the action fear? But fear of what?
Again, do not get what you want
Whether we like it or not, it is childish impressions create our first "road map" of love. Couple that we are going to meet, of course, must be beautiful. But that's not all: on the bizarre logic of children, our future partner should give us a portion of love, loss in childhood.
The fact is that even the most caring parents can not answer all our emotional needs. So unconsciously we are waiting for compensation due from the chosen one. For example, a girl is looking for an all-powerful father, who always avoids the trouble and pointed the right direction, and her chosen one is looking for "mother", which understands it to 100% and does not cease to admire them constantly. Find a living creature, which fully complies with these expectations, it is not possible. Therefore, we are beginning to be afraid of disappointment.
This fear may be particularly strong for those who in childhood had a chance of losing a parent - through death or divorce in the family. They seemed to make a decision: "It is better for anyone not tied down, because I could not bear the loss, if I throw." Love is danger, and fear once again get into this situation blocks the development of any deep relationship.
And, finally, the suspicion of the presence in their children's inflated expectations of a partner, we can expect that and it has exactly the same bunch of requirements. It is likely that he wants to see in us a perfect parent and a continuous source of their happiness. And if we do not fulfill these requirements, we simply eat the bones and leave you with just a killer sense of guilt.
Success against love
There is another reason for fear of love: it is a cult success. We are in kindergarten is well understood that important. It is important to win at competitions, occupy the first place, to show their advantages. That is, try to be the best. Exactly the same call family, school and institution. Very easy to make such a scheme on relations with the opposite sex: it is important to win the best of its representatives. This will have to use every conceivable means of compliance with social standards. Such a strategy is good for tineydzherskogo self-assertion, but when a grown man to win such a contest, he risks remain with his victory in a vacuum. At the close relationship the logic of success is hard to reconcile with the logic of love. Precisely, these two logics are in direct collision. We must always choose - whether to be or show a good face. But you can not always hide their weaknesses.
What happens after a period of flirtation and romance, runs counter to the culture of success. Love - then voluntarily agree to an emotional dependence on another, and the culture of success has taught us the value of autonomy. In an intimate relationship "win" those who do not seek to win, but for the "success" is to abandon external standards and accept imperfection. But such a rejection of self-realization is too unfamiliar and therefore scary.
Fear transition
And, finally, when people are considering a joint zhite, find themselves confronted with fears that may seem far-fetched and unfair to the partner. In fact, it is quite legitimate fears connected with the moment of choice - so that we in the new stage to part with some excellent opportunities. We say goodbye with the freedom to live, to anyone without having to account, we are parting with a view to create a useless non-binding novel with a nice man, finally, we refuse to set the daily habits, such as the indiscriminate dispersal of their socks and washing dishes as the disappearance of the net.
Loss of freedom and opportunity scares - and this is a very real fear. But if we are aware of the fear he becomes a conscious choice.
However, today more people are trying to avoid a conscious choice - good, public opinion can not give each other the final promises to "forever". Culture of relations "light" increases the romantic and sexual freedom, but on the other - enables a person to escape from their fear of intimacy, because there is always readily "emergency exit" from the relationship. At one end of the scale - a relationship without pain and consequences, on the other - lack of opportunities to grow, because growth takes place in deep relationships.
Go through the fears
This closeness, a new form of being alone, scared - this is normal. This is a healthy fear of development and growth. It is better to be aware: if there is an opportunity to choose how to live on. Otherwise it is possible for a long time to get stuck between two polar fear: fear of loneliness and pain of love. In any case, the fear - not the best motivator for our lives.
It is to admit that love is terrible, and that these fears are normal. Then, with fears at least you can meet.
In general, all the fears of closeness can be attributed to one of two categories: the fear of rejection ( "I do not want to, leave me") and the fear of absorption ( "I would deny freedom to be controlled, I can not realize themselves"). The first is traditionally considered feminine, the second - a male, but it is too primitive simplification: the same man at different stages of development of relations may experience any of them.
Fear of rejection leads too readily to agree with the other, abandoning himself. If he is aware, it makes learning to love and appreciate themselves. Then you can not be afraid of small signs of rejection in the form of quarrels and complaints: let me unhappy - this is not the end of the world. In the end, even if the loved one is gone, life goes on. When a person is not aware of the fear of absorption, it automatically says "no" and refuse from everything, simply because any cost defend its independence. In fact, he did not have time to think about what he wants, and what not. Recognizes this fear, man is free to say "yes" and "no" more intelligent, as well as another set reasonable limits. Finally, it is clear that love - it is really great is a real risk of real loss. And then you can gradually move from illusion to reality.
Again, do not get what you want
Whether we like it or not, it is childish impressions create our first "road map" of love. Couple that we are going to meet, of course, must be beautiful. But that's not all: on the bizarre logic of children, our future partner should give us a portion of love, loss in childhood.
The fact is that even the most caring parents can not answer all our emotional needs. So unconsciously we are waiting for compensation due from the chosen one. For example, a girl is looking for an all-powerful father, who always avoids the trouble and pointed the right direction, and her chosen one is looking for "mother", which understands it to 100% and does not cease to admire them constantly. Find a living creature, which fully complies with these expectations, it is not possible. Therefore, we are beginning to be afraid of disappointment.
This fear may be particularly strong for those who in childhood had a chance of losing a parent - through death or divorce in the family. They seemed to make a decision: "It is better for anyone not tied down, because I could not bear the loss, if I throw." Love is danger, and fear once again get into this situation blocks the development of any deep relationship.
And, finally, the suspicion of the presence in their children's inflated expectations of a partner, we can expect that and it has exactly the same bunch of requirements. It is likely that he wants to see in us a perfect parent and a continuous source of their happiness. And if we do not fulfill these requirements, we simply eat the bones and leave you with just a killer sense of guilt.
Success against love
There is another reason for fear of love: it is a cult success. We are in kindergarten is well understood that important. It is important to win at competitions, occupy the first place, to show their advantages. That is, try to be the best. Exactly the same call family, school and institution. Very easy to make such a scheme on relations with the opposite sex: it is important to win the best of its representatives. This will have to use every conceivable means of compliance with social standards. Such a strategy is good for tineydzherskogo self-assertion, but when a grown man to win such a contest, he risks remain with his victory in a vacuum. At the close relationship the logic of success is hard to reconcile with the logic of love. Precisely, these two logics are in direct collision. We must always choose - whether to be or show a good face. But you can not always hide their weaknesses.
What happens after a period of flirtation and romance, runs counter to the culture of success. Love - then voluntarily agree to an emotional dependence on another, and the culture of success has taught us the value of autonomy. In an intimate relationship "win" those who do not seek to win, but for the "success" is to abandon external standards and accept imperfection. But such a rejection of self-realization is too unfamiliar and therefore scary.
Fear transition
And, finally, when people are considering a joint zhite, find themselves confronted with fears that may seem far-fetched and unfair to the partner. In fact, it is quite legitimate fears connected with the moment of choice - so that we in the new stage to part with some excellent opportunities. We say goodbye with the freedom to live, to anyone without having to account, we are parting with a view to create a useless non-binding novel with a nice man, finally, we refuse to set the daily habits, such as the indiscriminate dispersal of their socks and washing dishes as the disappearance of the net.
Loss of freedom and opportunity scares - and this is a very real fear. But if we are aware of the fear he becomes a conscious choice.
However, today more people are trying to avoid a conscious choice - good, public opinion can not give each other the final promises to "forever". Culture of relations "light" increases the romantic and sexual freedom, but on the other - enables a person to escape from their fear of intimacy, because there is always readily "emergency exit" from the relationship. At one end of the scale - a relationship without pain and consequences, on the other - lack of opportunities to grow, because growth takes place in deep relationships.
Go through the fears
This closeness, a new form of being alone, scared - this is normal. This is a healthy fear of development and growth. It is better to be aware: if there is an opportunity to choose how to live on. Otherwise it is possible for a long time to get stuck between two polar fear: fear of loneliness and pain of love. In any case, the fear - not the best motivator for our lives.
It is to admit that love is terrible, and that these fears are normal. Then, with fears at least you can meet.
In general, all the fears of closeness can be attributed to one of two categories: the fear of rejection ( "I do not want to, leave me") and the fear of absorption ( "I would deny freedom to be controlled, I can not realize themselves"). The first is traditionally considered feminine, the second - a male, but it is too primitive simplification: the same man at different stages of development of relations may experience any of them.
Fear of rejection leads too readily to agree with the other, abandoning himself. If he is aware, it makes learning to love and appreciate themselves. Then you can not be afraid of small signs of rejection in the form of quarrels and complaints: let me unhappy - this is not the end of the world. In the end, even if the loved one is gone, life goes on. When a person is not aware of the fear of absorption, it automatically says "no" and refuse from everything, simply because any cost defend its independence. In fact, he did not have time to think about what he wants, and what not. Recognizes this fear, man is free to say "yes" and "no" more intelligent, as well as another set reasonable limits. Finally, it is clear that love - it is really great is a real risk of real loss. And then you can gradually move from illusion to reality.
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